This is Becoming Yourself, a space for exploring trauma, shadow, embodiment, spirituality, identity, and the messy, liberating process of becoming yourself.
There comes a point when you realize you’ve gotten very good at being who everyone else needs you to be.
Good daughter.
Good partner.
Good friend.
Good employee.
Good person.
You know how to anticipate what people need.
You know how to keep the peace.
You know how to make yourself smaller, quieter, easier, more useful.
You might even be very good at it.
And then, somewhere along the way, a strange question starts appearing:
But who am I?
That question is where this blog begins.
Becoming Yourself is a space for exploring what happens when we start loosening our grip on the identities, beliefs, expectations, and adaptations that once helped us belong.
We’ll talk about trauma and the ways it shapes who we become.
About people-pleasing, perfectionism, shame and self-abandonment.
About religious and spiritual trauma, deconstruction, and what happens when the beliefs that once gave you a map no longer fit.
About Jung, dreams, shadow, symbolism and the strange language of the unconscious.
About embodiment, sexuality, intuition, creativity, spirituality, ritual and the parts of ourselves we were taught not to trust.
And underneath all of it is a question I’m endlessly interested in:
Who might you become if you stopped organizing your life around who you were supposed to be?
This isn’t about finding some perfect, authentic version of yourself hidden underneath the trauma.
I don’t think becoming yourself works that neatly.
I think we uncover some parts.
We grieve others.
We meet parts of ourselves we were taught to reject.
We discover desires we didn’t know were ours.
We change our minds.
We become strangers to old versions of ourselves.
And, slowly, we begin making a life that feels less like a performance and more like something we actually inhabit.
This is a blog about that process.
The descent. The unraveling. The shadow. The reclamation. The becoming.
Welcome to Becoming Yourself.
Coming soon. 🖤