There Is No Goodness or Badness
Unlearning Perfection, Embracing Our Humanity, and Letting Go of the Myth of ‘Goodness’
We hold both truths that you are good and worthy because you exist and also you don’t need to be good. By whose judgment are we ascribing goodness? We are both important and insignificant.
We lapse into binaries because we desire certainty. There are few things in life that are inherently good. Childbirth is “good” for some; traumatic for others.
The illusion of goodness hangs our worth like a carrot on a string. We are always doing things to prove our goodness because we have bought into the social lie that if we are “good” we will be acceptable and lovable.
Goodness is a construct, an unattainable ideal. When we don’t have to be “good,” we can just be our Selves.
Striving for Goodness
What is original to you as a child (they aren’t good, they are selfish; they learn to strive for goodness)
The root of shadow work is the pursuit of goodness. (Lois episode wanting to be a good person)
Value we ascribe to failure or success relating to goodness or badness
Focus on goodness as an eternal locus of control and false sense of power
The indoctrination of perfectionism from all systems of oppression is asinine
A standard of perfection is both inhumane and objectifying — my worth becomes entwined with my usefulness. We are treated as machines to output productivity, and our efforts will never be good enough.
Perfectionism is inherently in denial of our humanity.
Embracing Human Fallibility
I am naturally fallible as a human person. I do make mistakes. I am not very efficient (I mean, I have to sleep for 9 hours a day and poop every day—again and again!). I am not a machine.
How bizarre we have been indoctrinated to hold our worth like a carrot on a string until we achieve an unattainable goal that can never be fulfilled.
I will never be perfect.
I am not going to wait to be worthy.
I am not in denial of my humanity.
I don’t have to be perfect.
I can just be me.
How would your life look different without being plagued by perfectionism? 📏❌☁️
Unlearning the “Good”
WCS of being in trouble — letting someone down, repercussions, “I’m not GOOD,” mistakes don’t mean I’m bad at my job
Sexuality (money, power) is a neutral energy, not good or bad; it’s how it’s related to
Children aren’t good, and we aren’t either. Children are selfish, and we are too. Unlearning the conditioning of goodness
How to enjoy good things
What was considered “good” to create worthiness to receive love (we distrust ease)
Desire to be a “good” parent made me lose myself.
I don’t feel I’m good {at my job}. People will get exhausted telling me I’m good, but I don’t believe them. How am I supposed to feel good enough if I don’t get the team lead position?
You are good and worthy as you are, and also, you don’t need to be good.