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The past several years have felt like an uphill path for accumulation: winning people over (re-building relationships), winning roles/ titles (at work mostly, though not literal titles). And now I've gone over the edge (of this particular hill), and the accumulation is accelerating like a giant snowball. So with this season, I have had to reorient and put the brakes on. To cut things out & say no & allow the Black Madonna/ the Holy Mother to protect me.

It scares me how many of my friends operate on a schedule (and of course, that I do too); a schedule that is overflowing with commitments/ interests at that. Fitting each other into slots in our days. Sometimes the whole "are you free on evening X or evening Y or morning Z?" tango verges on mechanical and fake (when I feel cynical). I don't trust that this is the life I want, where impromptu plans become impossible. So I'm trying to feel out which of my commitments/ relationships may have rotted and need to be set free. Trying to create some space for the inspired and impromptu. Creating time to stabilize myself and have energy/ calm to support others.

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